Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Actions Speak picture “everyone is fighting their own battles that you know nothing about”

I am writing this blog today as part of the healing process I am still going through some 2 years after the event. The impact this particular event had on my confidence and trust was massive. I want to share my experience so I can finally let it go.

2014 was the most challenging year I have ever had and I truly thought I had been cursed. I was tested time and time again. People were telling me what I wanted to hear – promising incredible opportunities that never eventuated. I invested my time, energy and finances into what I believed would lead me to bigger successes. It turns out actions definitely do speak louder than words.

When I wanted to expand my business to the corporate market, I was put in contact with a Life Coach who had her own successful business in the Wellness industry, with similar interests to mine. We connected and I was super excited to be offered the opportunity to expand my business by working with her, helping at corporate events with fitness sessions and seminars, and being the representative for my area to build my profile. This would allow me to promote my own business and build a new clientele.

The opportunity she was offering also included assisting with writing articles for a very popular Australian fitness and health magazine, and the potential to be part of the retreats she offered in Hawaii. At the time I was blown away at how exciting this all sounded, and how it was exactly what I had wanted to offer with my own business. She would become a mentor to me and support me with business advice, and empower me to operate my own successful business.

“Empower me”……..those were the exact words she used. This experience was anything but empowering!

I invested my entire tax return plus borrowed money to secure my “commitment fee” to what she promised. At the time I certainly wasn’t in a strong financial position, so I was putting all of my trust into this opportunity, thinking it would reward me later. Looking back I guess I was naïve and should have really listened to my intuition that this was too good to be true.

It was only a matter of months before I started to realize that the business of this life coach was not at all what she made it out to be. I was paying monthly fees for support that I never received. I was promised new contacts that I never got. One of the major corporate clients she had an affiliation with in my local area was now not interested. I was being reassured that I was being supported by her “wellness family” when in fact I had nothing to show for my commitment to it.

As my finances disappeared so did my self-confidence and trust. I began to doubt myself and my ability to be successful. I was now in a position where I had no choice but to get financial assistance from the government to help me survive. I hadn’t needed this kind of support since I left high school and wasn’t yet in the workforce. I struggled with my pride. I felt that I had failed and was embarrassed to admit that I needed help. Being on government support did not lift my spirits. I was having to apply for jobs that I did not want. It made no sense to me to have to apply for jobs that I had no interest in, just to get financial support. I wanted financial assistance to support me whilst I built my own business, but unfortunately there is very little help for those who are self-employed.

I was in tears explaining to the life coach that I could not pay the monthly fees and felt she was not delivering what she had promised. I never heard from her again……..she cut off all contact with me. She was done with me. Wow, to think that someone from the Wellness industry could have the ability to take everything from me and not even care! I had basically invested my money into her business and not my own. Instead of developing my own business, I had helped improve her business.

I was at my lowest point and was slipping into depression. I had invested thousands of dollars which I had now lost. I had nothing to show for this investment.

The remainder of 2014 was no better for me. I tried to keep positive that everything happens for a reason, and that this was just a test in my strength of character. But after more than 12 months of continuously being thrown curveballs, I was finding it hard to keep my head held high.

Fast forward to today, and I am still in the process of dealing with that depression and becoming the confident woman I used to be. At least now I can look back on these experiences and see with clarity the important lessons I have learnt:

  1. I do not need to pay someone to make my business successful. I have the ability to do this by myself.
  2. Be open to opportunities without being attached to the outcome.
  3. If something does not work out as planned, let it go. Trust that there is a reason for this, and that something better is on its way.
  4. Remember those people who were actually there for me when I was at my lowest. The friends and family who supported me and believed in me.
  5. It’s ok to ask for help and admit that I am not always as strong as I make out to be.
  6. Listen to my intuition and trust that it is always right.
  7. Learn from the “failures” to become stronger and more determined.
  8. Understand that not everyone I meet will be honest. People have their own agendas.
  9. Remember that actions always speak louder than words!
  10. Always look after myself first!

 

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Coming Full Circle (part 1)

20160125_100158 “you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards”

“A massage therapy course…….that sounds like fun!” These were my thoughts back in the late 90’s when I didn’t really have much of a career plan. Little did I know at the time, that some 14 years later I would still be working in the Wellness industry as a qualified massage therapist and personal trainer, operating my own small business empowering people to live their Ultimate Lifestyle.

When I started my massage therapy course, it became clear that I was really good at it and I actually enjoyed doing it! I just kept signing up to learn new modalities and after 3 years of full time study, it was time to put all my current knowledge into practice. The opportunities that are available in the Wellness industry are endless. Now I needed to decide which direction I wanted to go. Would I work for myself from home or offer mobile massage? Did I want to do corporate massage? Work in a physio or chiropractic clinic? Or did I want to work in the spa industry and offer other treatments too? The one thing I was certain of, was that I wanted, no, needed, to travel.

So for the next 14 years my journey presented me with the opportunity to travel to the most exclusive destinations around the world, sharing my passion of fitness and health with people.

I started working on the tropical island resorts along the east coast of Australia, where I was fortunate enough to be trained by numerous spa care ranges, learning an extensive menu of services that I would offer as a Spa Therapist. How exciting to learn body exfoliations and wraps, facials, hand, foot and scalp treatments, hydrotherapy and vichy shower treatments, to name a few.

Now that I had been welcomed into the world of Spa my passion grew even more. I loved the variety of treatments I could now offer, which made every day at work totally different. Having studied Aromatherapy at college certainly helped with learning all of the new spa products and their ingredients, and I loved learning the philosophies behind the product companies.

Over the years I refined all of my techniques to offer exceptional services to discerning guests including high profile celebrities and royalty (sorry, no name dropping! Confidentiality agreement. But let’s just say that although I have experience looking after this calibre of guest, I treat all of my guests with the same high level of service)

So the next 4 years were spent offering luxurious spa services, and working and living in paradise on different island resorts. The spas were all very unique in their own way, and certainly incorporated the surrounding beauty of the island.

My lifestyle became very different from living on the mainland. I no longer had a car or the freedom to do what I wanted when I wanted. Accommodation was shared living and all meals were served during allocated times. So, if I didn’t get along with my roomie or didn’t like the food options, I just had to learn to accept, adapt and learn from the experience. It takes a certain type of person to leave the comfort of their home and freedom of the mainland, to move to a remote island only accessible by sea plane or long boat rides, and live there for 6 months or even 12 months. It takes courage and risk. It means stepping out of your comfort zone and being open to new opportunities.

But it also means creating wonderful friendships with new friends, laying on white sandy beaches, diving in crystal clear warm water, taking helicopter and sea plane flights above the incredible Great Barrier Reef, hiking through pristine Daintree rainforest, eating fresh seafood, sunset cruises, whale watching, swimming with dolphins, watching marine turtles dig their nest to lay eggs, and then months later helping the little hatchlings safely reach the ocean, kayaking, stand up paddle boarding,  enjoying picnics on secluded islands, watching beautiful sunrises and sunsets………just some of the wonderful memories I have!

And I can say with all honesty, that the decision I made back in 2002 to start my career in the Wellness industry and travel the world by doing it, has been the best decision yet!

 

Want to know what happens next? I continue my journey in “Coming Full Circle Part 2”

“I still haven’t found what I’m looking for….”

The feeling of being homesick for a place I’ve never even been to is a constant in my life. I’ve traveled and lived in many places around the world and have so much more to discover.I want my travel journey to be endless.

But will I always have this feeling of not truly belonging? A feeling that there is somewhere else I should be? Is it a place that I am homesick for? Or could it be a person whom I haven’t met yet? Someone who will make me feel like I’ve found my “home”?

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Listen to your body

20160112_092420.jpgDo you really know your own body? Do you listen to your body? Can you recognize the signs it is telling you? Do you ignore these signs or act on them with urgency? What is the relationship you have with your body? Do you nurture your body and thank it? How connected are you?

Our bodies are so fascinating and complex, but many of us don’t really understand our own. Often we are given so much conflicting information about what we should or shouldn’t be doing it can become overwhelming. Which foods to eat or avoid, the best exercises to do, the best time to exercise, how many hours sleep we should have, how much water we should drink, how many times we should eat during the day, which products we should apply to our skin……..the list is endless and always changes.

It is so important to get to know what works best for your body. Do your own research and make up your own mind. Every single body is different and what works for you will probably be completely different to what works for someone else.

Remember that our bodies are always changing, so we need to accommodate our changing needs and accept these. When you start to listen to what your body is telling you, and give it what it needs, you really start to feel the vitality that our bodies are capable of.

Fit, strong, flexible, energetic, healthy, happy, motivated, vibrant & radiant…………

The feeling of being the best you can be. How do you want to feel?

Born To Run

IMG_4580983542102.jpegFor me, running is about trying to empty my mind of thoughts and focus on all the senses. The sound and rhythm of my breath. The sound of the ground beneath my feet. The feeling of being connected to the earth. The sound of the waves crashing or a leaf falling from the tree. The fresh breeze against my skin. The warmth of the sun. The heat of my blood flowing to my muscles. The feeling of sweat running from my skin. Totally connected to myself and my surroundings. Totally in the moment. Totally relaxed.

Sometimes though, I do start to question: When we run, are we running away from something? Or toward something? Or a little of both?……….

The Ultimate Lifestyle

What does having the Ultimate Lifestyle mean to you? For me, it is defined by the way I choose to live my life – by being true to myself and following my own path. A path that I create – not one that is  determined or influenced by the personal opinions of others. I respect that every single one of us is different and we all have our own unique values and beliefs that we follow. What I believe in and know as my truth is not going to be the same as yours. What I do believe is that each and every one of us should be honest with ourselves and do what we feel is right for us. We have one life to live – our own life.

So, let me ask you this question, something we should all take the time to consider:

ARE YOU REALLY LIVING YOUR LIFE,

OR ARE YOU SIMPLY EXISTING?

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